We had a really terrible day yesterday. Duke, the bigger of our two black labs, bit Charlotte in the face with no provocation. Charlotte is fine, but she has a small gash above her right eyebrow and scrapes on her right eyelid. Thank goodness it wasn't worse. I was sitting right there petting Duke when it happened. I guess Duke's anxiety finally reached the breaking point and his instincts took over.
We have known for some time that Duke is very nervous around Charlotte and we always vowed to watch them both closely. We tried to keep Charlotte away from him, and we are forever trying to teach her to "pet nicely" and not to touch the dog's faces. We also tried to correct Duke whenever he growled at her and we have given him love at attention both when Charlotte was around and when she was asleep. This event confirmed our worst fears - that we would need to get rid of Duke for Charlotte's safety (and for the safety of other babies who visit our house). Animal advocates might criticize me for giving up on Duke so fast without trying to train the anxiety out of him, but I can't imagine keeping Duke after knowing what happened. I wouldn't ever feel safe having my young relatives over to visit and could never have a playdate here. I certainly wouldn't take Charlotte to hang out with a dog who had bit one of her buddies in the face.
Duke was (and still is) a terrific dog for adults and older children. We love him dearly but recognize that he should be with a family that better suits his needs. Corey and I feel absolutely sick over all of this, but when it comes down to it, Charlotte comes first.
The silver lining of this whole mess is that Duke has gone back to be fostered by the family from whom we adopted Duke. They had fostered him for over a year before they gave him to us, and they watched him for us several times while we were out of town. He knows and adores them. They have a few leads on some great families without tiny kids who might be in the market for a big lovable lug like Duke. Thank you so much, Grace, Randy & Allie!
We are keeping Connie, but of course we will be extra vigilant. She has always been completely relaxed around Charlotte and doesn't even bat an eyelash if Charlotte gets a hold of her tail or climbs onto her bed with her. She certainly has never shown the fear that Duke did, and if she shows even an inkling of it we will take appropriate training measures or simply take a break from owning dogs for a while.
I feel horrible that I couldn't protect Charlotte. That's what haunts me the most.